Sunday, January 11, 2009

Successful Marriage (part 3)


Part two was primarily talking about what submission is not and this time, we will talk about submission is.
1. It is the personal responsibility of the wife. "Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives..."1 Peter 3:1 NIV
.*Submission should come willingly from the wife.
.*There is nothing in the scripture that tell the husbands to oppress or force their wives into submission.
(The most that the husband can do is to pray and enjoin the wife to be submissive. After that, he just really has to trust God.)
2. Submission is a perpetual lifestyle, not one-time event.
3. Submission is not optional or conditional, but mandatory.
Many women practice conditional submission; they submit only if they get what they want or if they can have something in exchange, but this is not what the Bible is saying. Submission is not to be conditioned by abilities, talents, wisdom, education or condition of state.
4. Submission is part of spirituality. I don't believe that a wife can be both spiritual and unsubmissive.
5. Submission is a positive concept.
.*The emphasis is on putting all your talents, resources and energy at your husband's disposal.
.*It means yielding to the husband's management for the good of the family. It is a teammate. In any team, there is a leader and in marriage, God appointed husband to be the leader.
6. Submission is the wife's joy.
.* Just as Jesus submitted to the Father not with resignation or heaviness but with joy.
.* Submitting cheerfully is showing respect to the husband. "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." Ephesians 5:33 NIV
7. Submission is extensive- "the wives are to be subject to their husband in everything." It is not selective.
.* Submission is to be the wife's lifestyle at all time, in all places (not just the church), and in everything.
POINT OF CLARIFICATION: This submission however is not total, absolute and unlimited because the proper context of submission is "as is fitting to the Lord." Our ultimate and final submission is to the Lord because the husband's authority is merely appointed by God and should never violate God's intentions and purposes. "We must obey God rather than men!" Acts 5:29 NIV
Don't worry, wives, I will be talking about the rules of the husband on part five. Successful Marriage (part two) can be found at my January 4th post. For advance study, listen to audio-sermon at Living Word Christian Ministries.


dede said...

Hi Grace, i was here today. I didn't follow on successful part 1 &2, but what my definition about how marriage to be successful is all about commitment,respect, understanding and love. nice post

Erik said...

Hi Grace, I was here.
Nice post Grace

niar said...

hi Grace, it is nice posting. It add my knowledge about commit a good a marriage life

Denise said...


Eduardo said...

Eduardo's Mommy here: Thank you for this Grace! I'm still not sure how I should be submissive, I don't want to sound naieve, but I told my husband about this, & he ask me for sex, I told he I really didn't feel like it, & he told me I am supposed to be submissive! I really don't think thats what this means or am I wrong? Please tell me where I draw the line, or if I have to submit to be a good wife & a decent follower of God. Thats all I want to do.
Hugs & Snugs
Eduardo the Snuggle Puggle's Mommy

Nanaybelen said...

good articles

med said...

wonderful posts

addyforest said...

Very informative..Thanks for posting

iWalk said...

A successful Marriage!

I always think that's a very complex and difficult mission.

But you let me know we can do it. :)

Friendz said...

hi Grace,wonderful posts...
have a nice day!!

Omah's Helping Hands said...

Great post Grace. It is hard for some to understand how to be submissive yet not used. A marriage should be an equally adjoined relationship with respect for one another. The husband is the king of the house, but each should show respect to one another.

This subject had been spoken to us not too long ago. I thought it was great. Very helpful.

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