THE ROLE OF MENOn part 5, I shared 5 characterestics of the leadership of the husband, and today, I will be sharing the other 3.
6. The man is called to manage. "He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God's church?)" 1 Timothy 3:4-5 NIV.
This means that the husband is not the owner of his wife and children. This thought alone should affect greatly how he treats his family. If he knows that he is but a manager, he will never treat his wife and children like a slaves.
7. Jesus is the head for the sake of the church. "And God placed all things under (Jesus) feet and appointed Him to be head over everything for the church," Ephesians 1:22 NIV Jesus never thinks of what is good only for Himself but what is good for the church (His people).
8. The man should draw inspiration from Christ's leadership. Jesus came to serve and not to be served and gave His life a ransom for many. "...just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many." Matthew 20:28 NIV
.....a. The husband should be a delight to his wife in the same way that Christ was to His disciples. "Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers." 1 Peter 3:7 NIV
Applying this concept, where God calls the husband to live with their wives, the husband must live and be at home when he is with his wife. This means that his wife is his best friend. Having this in mind, the man must always make efforts for special arrangement for his wife.
.....b. The husband must instruct his wife in the same way that Christ did His disciples. The wife must be the husband's first disciple.
.....c. The husband must be a good example as Christ was.
.....d. The husband must make decision and delicate responsibility. In any organization, there is a need for a finaly authority and a final decision maker, and in marriage, the husband is the final authority.
* Decision-making is part of the husband's headship in the Bible.
..........- God gave the vision to Noah and not to his wife, to build an ark.
..........- God gave the vision to Abraham and not to his wife, to leave the land of Ur and settle in the land of Canaan.
..........- God gave the message of deliverance to Lot and not to his wife.
..........-God gave the vision to bring Israel out of Egypt to Moses and not to his wife.
..........- God gave the vision to Joseph and not to Mary, to leave for Egypt because of Herod.
..........- God gave the vision to make preparations to build the temple to David and not to any of his wives.
**However, since the man is the servant-leader, he must take into consideration what would be good for the church and family. This is the balance.
**At times, however, if the decision might cause a marriage to break apart, it is best to subject the decision process to pray and await God's voice.
In terms of delegation, the man must be able to spot enough to see the ability and gifts the wife has which he may not have or may be lacking in.
CONCLUSION: If both husband and wife fulfill their role in marriage, genuine oneness will be achieved.
Two more series to go for "Role of Men". Successful Marriage (part five) can be found at my January 25th post. For advance study, listen to audio-sermon at Living Word Christian Ministries.